How to reach out to a friend without always saying “how are you?”
Reaching out to a friend that has been experiencing a tough time can be difficult. You kinda feel like you could make it worse, or that the conversation might be awkward. I’m going to tell you right now that reaching out to a friend even though it may be awkward, is better than seeing a recent "suicide” in the local newspaper. Think about: “what if this could possibly stop them from taking their life, or from making a life altering decision alone?”
Here are some ways to start a conversation…
Tell them you miss them
Tell them something that happened that made you think of them
Recommend a song and then ask them their opinion about it
Remind them that they’re not alone–a quick “Hi ____. I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone, and that I will always be here for you” can go a long way
Ask them about a show suggestion on Netflix
Ask to get coffee or lunch somewhere
Let them know you are free to catch-up and chat
Ask if you can help them with anything
Make a comment about something you both have in common
Offer to run an errand for them
Tag them in something on Instagram/ snapchat, etc.
Remind them of a nice memory you two share
Send them a photo you love
Acknowledge their strength during this difficult time
Send a funny meme (or joke)
Make them a handmade gift to show them how much you value their friendship
Send them a curated playlist
Ask them about something they are interested in
Give them a compliment
Wish them a good day
Tell them how much they mean to you
Send your prayers… “I’m think of you”
Ask if they want to FaceTime
Thank them for sticking around
Ask if they want to go for a walk
Tell them how much you love them
Bring them over a meal/ snack
Drop off flowers
Send a funny snapchat
Thank them for their loyalty
I challenge you to try some of these out. A simple, yet thoughtful text can go a very long way.
–“It’s the little things that make life wonderful”
10 Texts To Send Someone Struggling With Their Mental Health
“My life is better with you in it”
“I might not understand what you are going through, but you are strong and will get through it.”
“I’ll be here when you are ready to talk, I promise.”
“Call me anytime you need to talk, I’m here for you.”
“The way you feel right now won’t last forever.”
“Take your time to get better, there is no rush, I will still be here.”
“You are important to me and I love you.”
“You are not a disappointment because I am proud of you.”
“When you feel alone remember that you’ll always have me.”
“Do you want to get lunch with me or go for a walk?
